How Much Money Did You Get For Your Wedding
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How much coin did you receive as gifts?
Maybe this is a weird/prying question, only FI and I are dirt-poor college students. If we don't get plenty money from guests as wedding ceremony gifts, we can kiss any honeymoon plans goodbye. We might even have to dip into my savings to fly back home.
So how much did you get from your guests? And how many guests did yous take?
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Re: How much money did you receive as gifts?
I'g sad but this floors me. You accept planned a wedding ceremony and didn't budget in your travel back home? If you can't afford to fly home, you tin can't afford to blow whatever wedding coin on a honeymoon - you demand to salvage it for emergencies!
Well I'k not going to share how much we received in gifts because that will have absolutely no begetting on what volition happen in your situation. Depending on your expanse, greenbacks gifts may be 100% what you receive (our situation), only fifty% or barely any. It is totally regional. How much y'all receive also varies on how much of your close family unit can attend, what is unremarkably gifted in your area and the fiscal state of affairs of those attending. Yous cannot predict it.
Most importantly, equally PP mentioned, if you can't afford to fly dorsum home correct now, then you are spending more than you can afford on your wedding. With only ane calendar month to become, there might not be much to do other than cutting unnecessary expenses such as favors and extra decor. Plus work more to relieve more. Y'all can NOT bank on people giving you gifts. In that location are some women here who receive little to no gifts and other more fortunate like myself who received way more than than we expected. Don't plan on information technology.
Aye, I'm with PP. I say put about wedding money in savings, buy what yous need for the house with some, and postpone your honeymoon until yous can afford information technology.
Nosotros got enough to complete our registry, and upgrade things on our honeymoon. We planned to pay for it all ourselves, because we didn't await other people to pay for something that nosotros wanted.
Ditto PPs. You lot cannot wait your wedding guests to foot any of your travel expenses. Any travel costs should accept been included in your overall wedding budget. Additionally, there is no "standard" amount of coin that y'all should expect to receive from guests; this will differ depending upon where you live, the people you know, etc, etc.
If yous can't afford a honeymoon correct at present, consider taking a large trip for your first ceremony or something of that nature. This volition give you something to look frontwards to.
**i'thousand a little drunk on y'all and loftier on summertime**
If you can't beget a HM.. or to fly back abode.. How are you affording college?
Ditto PPs. If your wedding budget didn't include flights abode, you demand to take a step back and really meet where - even with a month to get - you tin can calibration back your budget. DH and I did not take a honeymoon immediately after our wedding and still haven't; DH started a new job just earlier our hymeneals and didn't desire to take time off right abroad. Now, it looks like our honeymoon volition be an ceremony trip, maybe this year, perhaps in a couple of years then we can do something long and exotic.
Honeymoons aren't required and you shouldn't be banking on your guests funding information technology (or your flights dorsum dwelling house). Don't expect monetary or physical gifts. DH and I were floored by people's generosity at our wedding but it was completely unexpected. We got more than monetary gifts than physical, simply nosotros had not allocated the money we received for anything.
I cant believe someone would enquire this questions. Its possiably the rudest thing you can ask. But maybe internet forms are different
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[QUOTE]If you can't beget a HM.. or to fly back home.. How are you affording college?
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]
This. This, this, this, this, this, this, THIS!
Also, I don't know about you, but my mother taught me that it's NEVER polite to enquire almost how much coin someone recieved. Good gravy!
If you can't beget to fly home from wherever your wedding ceremony is, yous should probably become married at home. How would you lot not upkeep your transportation costs in? Also practise non plan a HM and then hope you get money to pay for it. Yous can always take a trip later downwards the road. Frankly from what yous've posted, it sounds like any money yous Practise become could ameliorate serve you in your bank or savings account right now. That's where all our hymeneals money went.
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[QUOTE]Perhaps this is a weird/prying question, but FI and I are dirt-poor higher students. If we don't become enough money from guests as wedding gifts, we can osculation any honeymoon plans goodbye. Nosotros might even take to dip into my savings to fly back home. Then how much did you get from your guests? And how many guests did yous have?
Posted by PeanutThomas[/QUOTE]
<div>I feel sympathy with your brokeishness because I'thou currently on the job hunt. However, equally soon as you beginning wondering how much <em>your </em>guests are going to give you, you're setting yourself up for a bad, stressful time. Here's why:</div><div>
</div><div>If you lot and your FI are clay-poor higher students, I'yard going to guess that at least 10% of your guest list are too near that clay-poor college educatee demographic. If yous did invite age-mates, do you want to set yourself upward to exist mad at them if they gift y'all something small and heartfelt rather than writing you a bank check (or writing you likewise small a check)?</div><div>
</div><div>Oh, and also, you lot'll be stressed if anyone on this board tells you lot how much they were gifted if they had equivalent invitee numbers <em>but </em>received more (or mad at your guests for not beingness "equally generous").</div><div>
</div><div>At this indicate, you should kiss honeymoon plans goodbye <em>for now</em>.<stiff> You cannot upkeep around gifts you haven't been given yet.</potent> If y'all can program on the fly, you tin can accept a honeymoon soon afterwards the wedding ceremony, and scale it to however much yous receive. If not, PP's proposition that you lot save for a first anniversary trip is very advisable.</div><div>
</div><div>You could likewise have stock of anything y'all legitimately ain--bikes, tvs, couches, whatever--that could bring in some money on Craigslist or Ebay and see how much yous can raise toward your honeymoon.</div><div>
</div><div>Good luck.</div>
Holy moo-cow. I knew request financial questions was a little dicey in terms of ettiquette, but I had no thought I'd be raked over the coals for this.
How did we not budget in transport costs in the first place? We're dumb college students, patently.I'chiliad paying for college through an business relationship (forget what it's called) that I can't touch except to pay for tuition.
We took another hard look at the budget terminal nighttime and at that place is enough to go u.s.a. there and back, simply just just.
We haven't actually planned anything for the honeymoon. No reservations, nada. Then nosotros're not counting on taking a honeymoon later on the wedding, if we ever get to accept a honeymoon.
This is the first and terminal time I'll e'er post here. I thought this lath existed partially for already-married Knotties to assistance other brides. Apparently information technology's merely to brand them feel actually terrible virtually themselves.
You wouldn't be feeling as bad about yourself if you lot hadn't asked such a rude question to begin with. You knew it was dicey, but yous asked anyway? Okay.
So you forgot to budget in for something of import. Information technology happens. It just means that y'all go back over your budget and cut here and there until yous figure it out, which is what you lot're doing. And so why even ask?
No one has to get you a gift, cash or otherwise. And a honeymoon isn't required, particularly not correct away. You tin salvage upwards and go on 1 later, or just take a few days away together by car and exercise fun stuff nearby - amusment parks, water park, tacky tourist attractions, hole in the wall restaruants, museums, lakes, whatsoever you lot accept nearby. Go camping, if yous relish it. Get a motel room in a city close past and just hang out and explore for a few days. All of these count as honeymoons, and are inexpensive things y'all tin can do at the last minute IF you get a few hundred dollars in gifts. The point of a honeymoon is to spend time together starting out your new life, which yous tin can do just as easily in a hotel in your own city or in your own dwelling house every bit you can on a beach somewhere far away.
Based on how much nosotros spent on our wedding, we didn't receive half of that in monetary gifts. With that being said, you can always take a honeymoon later. Plan the nuptials you tin beget whether it's a 5k nuptials or a JOP nuptials.
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[QUOTE]Holy cow. I knew request fiscal questions was a piddling dicey in terms of ettiquette, but I had no thought I'd be raked over the dress-down for this. I'm paying for college through an account (forget what it'south called) that I can't touch except to pay for tuition. We took another hard look at the budget last night and there is plenty to get us there and dorsum, but simply only. We haven't actually planned anything for the honeymoon. No reservations, nada. So nosotros're not counting on taking a honeymoon afterward the wedding ceremony, if we ever get to accept a honeymoon. How did we not budget in transport costs in the first place? We're dumb college students, obviously. This is the first and terminal fourth dimension I'll always postal service here. I thought this board existed partially for already-married Knotties to help other brides. Evidently it'southward but to make them feel really terrible well-nigh themselves.
Posted by PeanutThomas[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>The reason I posted was not to make yous feel bad near yourself. It'southward considering some brides are gifted a couple hundred dollars and some are gifted tens of thousands of dollars and, at the end of the mean solar day, those gifts come from people whose feelings volition be hurt if you signal that you wanted or expected more.
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You cannot calculate cash gifts (if you get any at all) past what other brides have received. Likewise many variations here like number of guests, how generous these guests are, if they are souvenir givers, cash givers, or people who just evidence upwards without even a carte du jour.
We did not accept the money before the wedding ceremony for a fancy honeymoon so we did non plan on going anywhere. Yes we did receive some greenbacks merely the bulk of it came from our parents and siblings. We stayed close to home and enjoyed things similar going out to a fancy dinner. Would I have preferred a trip to Maui? Of form, simply we accept been before and we will go another time when we have the extra cash to enjoy bully activites like paddle boarding, dinner cruise, parasailing, and exciting restaurants. I could non imagine taking a trip with only enough cash to go there and dorsum. Boring and a waste product of money. Take your time to salve the cash to take a better vacation at a afterwards date.
Something else to think about, with y'all only starting out I think you will go more gifts and so money. I know if I was going to a young couple's wedding I would give a souvenir, if information technology was for an older more established couple I would give money, thinking that they would accept everything they would need for their home.
man i wanted to read this to see what people got in $$ terms cuz im ever curious about it as in average..... shoudl ahve thought she would have only gotten chewed out.. its liek people who ask how much was ur business firm or how much u make.. ive never been similar that and could care less if u know how much money i got at my wedding, birthday, at my job.... i havent had my hymeneals yet but my family unit just gives gifts so im hoping for at least 2g. thats a low balll, i get well-nigh 400 on my birthday and i brand nearly 30 a yr
its not that serious people
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[QUOTE]human i wanted to read this to see what people got in $$ terms cuz im ever curious well-nigh it every bit in average..... shoudl ahve idea she would have but gotten chewed out.. its liek people who ask how much was ur business firm or how much u brand.. ive never been like that and <strong>could care less if u know how much money i got at my nuptials, altogether, at my job</stiff>.... i havent had my nuptials however but my family unit only gives gifts so im hoping for at least 2g. thats a low balll, i get virtually 400 on my birthday and i make nearly 30 a twelvemonth :) its non that serious people
Posted by boomboom1243[/QUOTE]
OFFERING that data yourself is non a problem. ASKING for that information from other people IS.
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[QUOTE]man i wanted to read this to see what people got in $$ terms cuz im always curious near it equally in average..... shoudl ahve thought she would have but gotten chewed out..<stiff> its liek people who ask how much was ur house or how much u make.. ive never been like that and could intendance less if u know how much coin i got at my hymeneals, birthday, at my chore.... </strong>i havent had my wedding notwithstanding merely my family just gives gifts so im hoping for at to the lowest degree 2g. thats a low balll, i get about 400 on my birthday and i make near 30 a yr :) its not that serious people
Posted by boomboom1243[/QUOTE]
Just because YOU don't care if you are asked that and would readily supply that information doesn't mean other people want to, and it doesn't go far not rude to enquire. Asking how much someone makes or what they paid for a house is rude, particularly if y'all don't know the person (similar OP asking Cyberspace strangers), simply even so rude if y'all do know them. If y'all desire to volunteer that info, go ahead, but getting bent out of shape when someone asks me a rude question is entirely normal. Chewing with your oral fissure open is rude. Merely considering it doesn't bother some people, doesn't mean it all the same isn't rude and you probably shouldn't do information technology around someone if you don't know if they will find information technology rude.
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[QUOTE]human i wanted to read this to see what people got in $$ terms cuz im always curious about information technology as in average..... shoudl ahve thought she would accept just gotten chewed out.. its liek people who ask how much was ur house or how much u make.. ive never been like that and could care less if u know how much money i got at my wedding, altogether, at my job.... i havent had my wedding however just my family simply gives gifts so im hoping for at least 2g. thats a low balll, i get virtually 400 on my birthday and i make about 30 a year :) its non that serious people
Posted by boomboom1243[/QUOTE]<div>
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</div><div>I personally have no trouble with internet strangers asking such questions.. We choose whether or not to answer them. That's the beauty of the interwebs :o) </div><div>I don't think that's what is upsetting people for the most part.. Information technology's more near expecting some random number because they have such poor financing abilities. </div><div>And it'southward ridiculous to me that OP to call up that asking a bunch of people with all different backgrounds, from all unlike locations, with all different numbers of guests what they made off their weddings. It's one affair to ask for sheer curiousity, and another to remember that asking such a question should Really help her know what to "expect".</div><div>If you tin't afford to take a trip you lot can't afford to accept a trip. OP should exist thankful that she even gets to spend time with her H after the wedding. Some of us didn't go such time ;)
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Pitiful you got chewed out. To answer your question we got a little bit over $3000 total caput count was most 150 guest. I hope this helps.
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[QUOTE]Lamentable you got chewed out. To reply your question we got a fiddling scrap over $3000 total head count was almost 150 guest. I hope this helps.
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Simply you can't get by this..I invited 200 people and we were given a lilliputian over 200.00 so you really can't go by what other people get..
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[QUOTE]Holy cow. I knew asking financial questions was a petty dicey in terms of ettiquette, just I had no idea I'd be raked over the dress-down for this. I'm paying for higher through an account (forget what information technology'due south chosen) that I tin't affect except to pay for tuition. We took another hard look at the budget last night and in that location is enough to get united states there and dorsum, but merely just. We oasis't actually planned anything for the honeymoon. No reservations, nada. So nosotros're not counting on taking a honeymoon later on the wedding, if nosotros ever become to take a honeymoon. How did we not budget in transport costs in the first place? We're dumb college students, apparently. This is the outset and last time I'll always post here. I thought this board existed partially for already-married Knotties to assistance other brides. Apparently information technology's just to make them feel really terrible almost themselves.
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</div><div>I agree! You lot didn't enquire this question, so that people can teach you a lesson. All you wanted was an answer. If they don't have an answer, then they can move on. I was actually interested in a real answer myself, but out of curiousity. I honestly don't think information technology's a terrible question, this is just an internet forum. I've seen people ask far worse...
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How much money did y'all receive as gifts? : I agree! Y'all didn't ask this question, so that people can teach y'all a lesson. All y'all wanted was an answer. If they don't accept an answer, then they can move on.<strong> I was actually interested in a existent answer myself,</strong> just out of curiousity. I honestly don't think it'due south a terrible question, this is just an internet forum. I've seen people enquire far worse...
Posted by keringtonp[/QUOTE]
But the betoken is the answers don't thing! Our guests are non your guests. Ane person could say they got $5000 for their hymeneals. How does that assist you? That does non mean you volition get $5000 from your guests. Some other person may say they got $500. That doesn't mean you will. Every unmarried person on hither had dissimilar guests at their wedding, so what a random sampling of Internet strangers would say doesn't accept any bearing whatsoever on what yous or OP tin wait to "make" at your wedding.
Too that, OP admitted this was a weird and prying question. We affirmed that it was. She put something out in that location, and y'all tin't control the responses you get on an Net forum, like them or not.
I know someone who made over $15k for a 120 person wedding. I won't. It doesn't do me whatever practiced to know that that person fabricated $15k, know what I mean?
basically i hate these forms because of this reason.... you dont like somehting dont feel the need to tell them why they are rude, U guys can be total mean girls like really you see somehting you lot wouldnt awnser THEN DONT ripping people autonomously is RUDE and mean and horrible. and dont give me whatsoever of this we were merely trying to help her crap cuz you werent you ripped her apart for even HAVING a hymeneals AND GOING TO College!!! are you serious its called loans you dont pay till you lot graduate!!! MEAN and shame on u guys
Wow, I can't believe this bride was torn to shreds past asking a simple question that she was curious virtually. I thought this was a place where we could come to avoid being judged (like the rest of the world is always doing to brides/newlyweds). Clearly in the OP, she states that she HAS the coin in her savings for a honeymoon, but was curious if she'd get plenty monetary gifts from her guests to cover her ass. Trust me, I know how yous feel OP, we're pretty much dirt poor, as well, just we're doing what nosotros can, because this is something that we both passionately desire NOW, not a twelvemonth from now. Who knows if we will even live that long. I'thou certain that you have both disrepair your donkey to exist able to afford the nuptials in the showtime place, of Course you want to have your honeymoon afterwards to be able to relax. Possibly if yous accept some very close family unit or friends (that you KNOW won't exist offended past this sort of thing) you could mention to them that you don't have whatever actress spending cash to practice activities on your honeymoon and let them decide whether they want to help out with that or not.
I wouldn't surrender on what you want, coin comes and goes, only experiences and memories never fade abroad. Aye, you may accept a chip of stress waiting for yous at home afterwards your vacay, but if you're like me, you'll regret not going more than than you'll regret having to eat ramen noodles for a few weeks! 
Hope this helps.
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omfg, get your butthurt selves to Wedding Bee if you tin't handle getting real responses from people who realize that this is an inappropriate question with extremely varied answers.
People are too damn sensitive around here.
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[QUOTE]I know someone who fabricated over $15k for a 120 person nuptials. I won't. It doesn't practice me whatever good to know that that person made $15k, know what I hateful?
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Wow, proficient for them. If they're in the NYC area, that doesn't surprise me at all. What does surprise me is that they shared that info with you lot. But DH and I know how much we received in gifts. No one has asked & nosotros wouldn't tell anyway.
I agree, people are too damn sensitive about a silly trivial question that they Decide to respond to!!
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